In this article, we have compiled for you a list of books. These books are about how to build and maintain a relationship between a man and a woman. These books give knowledge, but the skill of applying this knowledge must be practiced! It is better to choose one book and implement 100% of the tips in your life than to read hundreds of books and not even use 1% of them. So, read and, most importantly, ACT!
1. “We: Understanding the Psychology of Romantic Love”, Robert Johnson
We would like to start our list of books with this one because it most widely covers the topic of romantic relations. Robert A. Johnson, an English psychologist and writer, wrote a book in which he answered the main questions – what is love? Is it possible to talk about the psychology of love? What do we mean by this word and what role does culture play in our perception of this phenomenon? “Romantic love is not just a form of love, but a whole psychological aggregate of beliefs, ideals, attitudes, and expectations.” – The author writes in the foreword to his book. This work will help you to understand everything and give answers to those questions that you may not even have thought about.
2. “The People Diet: A Relationship Guide for Foodies”, Michael Matteo
It is clear from the very title that Michael Matteo (an American psychologist, writer, and screenwriter) suggests treating relationships as a diet. We care about our diet, count calories, try to exclude harmful food and eat more vitamins, and achieve the most visible results. So, why do we so often admit chaos, quarrels, scandals, cries, and insults in our relationships? And doesn’t a quarrel harm the psychological state of a person in the same way that harmful food affects our physical condition? Michael Matteo has developed his unique way of how to properly build relationships with other people, not only romantic but also friendly, which he set out in this book, offering readers to adhere a kind of “diet” and cleanse the relationship of everything superfluous and harmful.
3. “How to Be a Couple and Still Be Free”, Tina Tessina, Riley Smith
This book of well-known American psychotherapists is a kind of manual on conflictology. Whether conflicts in a couple can’t be avoided? The answer is obvious – it is impossible. And those conflicts that happen, most often, occur because of the partners’ desire to limit each other’s freedom. In this way, as it seems to them, they can keep a soulmate close, protect a relationship from infidelity, and most importantly, self-assert in a relationship. Tina Tessina and Riley Smith argue that truly strong and healthy relationships are those in which both partners love each other, but they remain free people, and any conflict situations can be solved without prohibitions and blackmail, but simply peacefully negotiating. No matter how idealistic the slogan “freedom in relationships” might sound, the authors describe specific strategies of behavior under which this slogan can become real.